Tonight, I had to take Ansley to the emergency room. I admit it: It was my fault.
I also admit that if the tables were turned, and Ryan was the cause of the emergency room visit, these were the words he would have heard (some for YEARS on end):
"You caused Ansley to have a scar on her face for life!"
"I cannot believe you did that! Why weren't you watching her?"
"I don't understand why you felt the need to pick up a torn up slide to 'fix it up'. It's not like you don't already have ten other projects around the house. Now, you caused Ansley to profusely bleed out of her forehead!"
"Geez, do you remember that time when you put Ansley on the slide and made a huge gash on it? Well, you need to do X, Y, Z to make up for it."
But Ryan said none of that. He showed a lot of concern and worry. But he never once said any of the above. He handled it the EXACT opposite of how I would have handled it. That's why I love this man.
I'm sure you figured out what happened... if not here goes:
1. Ryan saw someone throwing out a toddler slide. He picked it up and brought it home two weekends ago.
2. Ansley and I were playing on it tonight. She went down three times just fine in the garage.
3. I decided she needed a better landing, so I put a blanket under the landing area.
4. The fourth time she went down, she slid down fine...until the very end where she tipped and her head went into the concrete.
5. She hysterically cried, I picked her up...blood was pouring down her face. Kind of freaked me out. Her nose was bleeding too.
6. I cleaned her up, and she had a 5 mm gash on her head.
7. Did I mention we have OUR family photoshoot this Friday?
Ryan thought that we could put a band-aid on her, and she would be fine. Um, no. I took her to the emergency room, hoping that she would NOT need stitches.
We went to the emergency room, and they concluded that she did not need stitches. There is this miraculous glue called "dermabond" (also known as Indermil) that is skin glue. They glued her up, and said that she would be fine in a few days. I promise, it looked worse prior to taking this photo:
I asked the doctor what would have happened if (a) I hadn't gone anywhere OR (b) if I would have instead took her to urgent care? He had some good points that I hadn't considered:
If I hadn't gone anywhere to get Ansley treated, she would just have had a bloody pillow when she woke up. It would have also taken a lot longer to heal.
If I had taken her to urgent care, since it was a head injury, urgent care is usually weary of that, especially with kids. Even if she didn't blackout (which Ansley did not), urgent care would have directed us to the emergency room.
I know from a financial standpoint, urgent care is less expensive than an emergency room visit. The corporation I work for has health insurance benefits where it actually forces you to see how much services cost because its aligned with the health savings and flexible spending account (which I think is a great idea...I mean, if you were more cognizant of how much things cost instead of having it "taken care of" for you without seeing the bill, I think it would make you, the patient, a little more accountable in terms of choosing which provider and services you want to use). Anyway, I just wanted to point out that urgent care costs on average, based on the 3 times I took Aubrey to daycare, $500. Insane right? I'm estimating $800 for Ansley's visit tonight.
On another side topic, pediatricians. I love our pediatrician. I hate the fact that she moved to another practice. Her old practice had walk-in hours. Her new one does NOT. They make you call to schedule an appointment if you need to see her that day. The three times Aubrey has needed to go in, her schedule was packed, hence the urgent care visits. Parents out there, should I go back to the old practice? What if I love my pediatrician? Any recommendations in the Lee's Summit or Blue Springs area?
To Ryan: Thank you for not yelling at me (imagine me with a sheepish grin).