As a working mother, I do feel guilty sometimes.
I don’t envy house moms. I take that back. I envy the patience they have. I, for one, could not do it. I’d go crazy. Like ‘cat lady’ crazy.
Sometimes, “I” think that other people think I’m making martyr out of myself with these blog posts – a mom of two kids so close in age…whoa is me. I’m really not trying to make it sound like that at all.
This blog is a journal of my journey as a working mother. Its my experiences and how I handle them. Let’s talk about one experience in particular: Handling conversations with people who think you should spend more time with your kids.
On any given week, I work about 80 hours a week with my career job and my hobby job. The career job – I love, I enjoy, and it challenges me on so many different levels. Plus, I wanted to use my degree that I paid for. Thats MY perogative…not hating on any house moms that got a degree. Its just how my mind works. My hobby job – I love it and am so passionate about it. Plus, its extra moolah.
Often times, I’m asked, “Why do you even have a hobby job? Don’t you miss your kids with as much as you work at your career job? I know I would. I have a kid and I love them to death and don’t want to be a part any second if I could help it! I’d hate to miss a huge milestone! That extra money can’t be enough to offset those milestones!”
Okay, I totally exaggerated that, but anytime I hear anyone ask/say that, I get a little peeved. In real life, I’m pretty sure I don’t complain about “how busy I am”. I just don’t pick up the phone because I just sometimes don’t have time to. To be honest, I love being busy. Ryan would say, “Being busy keeps you out of trouble.” (I dare not ask what “trouble” he’s referring to.)
First off, in response to people who ask me those questions, I want to say, “Mind your own business.” Those that know me know how blunt I am….and it would probably come off just like that. So, I prefer to stay quiet.
Secondly, I would also want to say, “I’m glad you have the perfect child that you want stay with all the time. But, my children aren’t perfect and I need a break from ‘Mommy I need to potty!’ or ‘Wahhh-ahhhhh!'” Instead, it comes out like, “That’s great that you want to spend time with your children.” And quietly leave it at that so that its like a reverse mind psychology to impune on them that they basically said I DON’T want to spend time with mine. (I’d probably add: “Even though my children aren’t perfect, they are totally more awesome than yours.” Sorry, that was the Tiger mom in me.)
Thirdly, I want to say, “I like photography. I like having a hobby.” What I really want to say is, “You are just jealous that I got secondary skillz people want to pay for.” Okay…that totally sounded bad…
I don’t really know how to end this post. So I’ll share with you the milestone that happened tonight: Ansley randomly and spontaneously picking my nose. A milestone I won’t forget and didn’t miss out on 🙂